On one of our walks, I raised this topic with Smarty asking what she is thinking about girls having to be nice and how she would define being nice. She looked at me funny and said, "Mama, I know you want me to be nice. Being nice is being diplomatic and not telling people the truth. Well, I am not nice. I believe that the truth is more important than kindness. At best, I am willing to say nothing if it's not necessary but I am not going to say nothing just to be kind."
I flashed back to my own uncompromising youth and thought that her honesty is really refreshing after years of listening to how we need to be politically correct, not hurt anyone's feelings and be nice to the point of going along with sexual harassment because we are not equipped to deal with it. Of course, I still want my daughter to be considerate and to think of how she wants to deliver her message but I don't want her to be silent just to fulfill the image of a "nice girl". I hope she will be able to follow her sense of self and to stand for what she believes in. I also believe that this will help her deal with unwanted attention if and when she experiences it.
How do you approach conversations about sexual harassment with your kids?