Tuesday, May 15, 2018

I had a lovely Mother's Day this year. I slept in until 10 am and then got up to waffles made by my husband and the gifts from my overexcited daughter. She is usually a sweet kid, and she was even more so on Mother's Day. I feel very blessed - Smarty is a healthy, happy, and thoughtful child... at least most of the time. But I can't help but feel worried. I wonder often if we chose the right path by supporting her academic gifts and making her so different from her peers. Perhaps, if she did not skip a grade and did not take SAT at 11 and did not know how gifted she is, she would have been more flexible and willing to reach out to make friends. Perhaps she would have been more interested in something other than her computer and her books?
Motherhood is a long journey. Our goal in the end is for our children to leave home and to be able to live independently. I start seeing glimpses of that time when Smarty talks about what she might want to study in college, but so far she has no desire to leave home and I cannot imagine her doing so. Yes, she technically can do laundry, swipe the floor, wash dishes, and make simple meals, but these feats of domestic aptitude are few and far in between. She would probably never clean her room if we did not remind her. She would wear dirty clothes if I did not empty her hamper. I keep thinking that we need to invest more time and effort into teaching her to cook and clean, but somehow it's so much easier to do it myself than to nag and push and stress over her performing the same task.
Mother's Day holiday always reminds me that time is flying very fast, and Smarty's days of childhood are really numbered by now as she teeters on the edge of puberty. But talking over Skype with my own Mom reminded me how attached I was to her even during my teenage years. We always had a close relationship, and I want to hope that Smarty and I will remain close as well. Yes, we have our fights - usually when both of us get into our stubborn mood over something not really significant, but so far we always kiss, make up, and move on thinking ourselves very lucky to have the best mother/daughter in the world.

Your Turn

How often do you question your decisions as a parent?

2 comments:

MaryAnne K. said...

I question constantly. And, honestly, I think it's part of being a good parent - being willing to step back and look for reasons we might need to approach raising children in a different way.

For what it's worth, I think you are a great mom <3

Ticia said...

Like you, I am seeing how my kids are running ever closer to being adults, and it's scary to think about.