Thursday, May 30, 2019

Sometimes I get all sad about Smarty missing some milestones. She never had a promotion from 5th grade to middle school, because she skipped 5th. Now she is not getting middle school graduation, because her school goes from grade 6 to grade 12, and therefore they don't care about middle school graduation. Her school also does not do dance parties (except the prom which everyone in high school is invited to attend) and does not do overnight field trips.
I asked Smarty recently if she feels bad about missing these things, and she looked at me liked I grew a second head. She said that even though she attended middle school parties in her old school, she did not care for them due to noise level and kids being "too wild" (her words, not mine). She also mentioned that the only thing that she feels bad about missing was 5th grade trip to a science camp where kids got to stay overnight for several days. She does not have any regrets about missing "graduations" and joked that with the way things are going she might end up missing a high school graduation as well.
This conversation made me think how often I project my own feelings on Smarty. Despite being my "mini-me", she has her own ideas about what is important to her, and right now social events just don't feature prominently in her priority list. Things might change eventually, but I am not in any hurry for that. In the meantime, we will still be celebrating another year of school flying by, just as we celebrated every other year - with a visit to our favorite sushi place.

Your Turn

Do you feel like your kids are missing on something due to the decisions you made?


Joyful Learner said...

With any choice, there is opportunity cost. When we homeschooled, I knew she would be missing out on all things related to school. She has no regrets because her experience was positive but when she questioned the need to go to college, I knew she would regret it much later on. I encouraged her to try school and now she is enjoying that experience as well.

Joyful Learner said...

By the way, K never had a 5th grade graduation but we went to Universal Studios with friends.

Ticia said...

Obviously with homeschooling I sometimes feel like that, but I also remember the sheer number of school events I chose not to go to because I wasn't interested in them.