I asked Smarty recently if she feels bad about missing these things, and she looked at me liked I grew a second head. She said that even though she attended middle school parties in her old school, she did not care for them due to noise level and kids being "too wild" (her words, not mine). She also mentioned that the only thing that she feels bad about missing was 5th grade trip to a science camp where kids got to stay overnight for several days. She does not have any regrets about missing "graduations" and joked that with the way things are going she might end up missing a high school graduation as well.
This conversation made me think how often I project my own feelings on Smarty. Despite being my "mini-me", she has her own ideas about what is important to her, and right now social events just don't feature prominently in her priority list. Things might change eventually, but I am not in any hurry for that. In the meantime, we will still be celebrating another year of school flying by, just as we celebrated every other year - with a visit to our favorite sushi place.
Do you feel like your kids are missing on something due to the decisions you made?