Why Advocate For Gifted Children?Let’s start with definition of advocacy. Advocacy is defined as any action that speaks in favor of, recommends, argues for a cause, supports or defends, or pleads on behalf of others. Some parents (ourselves included) feel sort of awkward asking for “special services” for their children. After all, here in America, where we so value our individuality, we send our children to schools where they are all expected to be educated the same. It’s funny to see how we single out and support talented athletes or singers, while it’s completely OK to let a talented young writer “write a paragraph” or to have a talented mathematician do boring math facts. It’s mostly up to a teacher to provide “differentiation in the classroom” and let’s just say that some teachers are better at that than others. This is why parents need to speak up – first to the teacher, and then go higher. Where do you start? I wrote a post What to Do When You Child Is Bored in School? last year for The Imagination Soup, and I will summarize the main points here, since now we have some distance between events and see better what worked and what didn’t.
Calm DownC – Craft your desired outcome. One mistake that we did early in our advocacy efforts was not being clear with the second grade teacher about what it was that we wanted. So she went with an “interesting” approach to differentiation. She told Smarty and another gifted boy in her class that they could no longer read after finishing their regular second grade tasks early. Instead, they had to choose harder worksheets that appeared very random. We certainly learned from this experience to ask for more specific things in the future.
A – Assemble your evidence. We did not do a private testing for our daughter, but our school uses STAR testing to assess students’ reading skills, and we were given results showing that our second grader is reading on the level of 10th grade. We also asked school to test her specifically in her math knowledge, because we knew that she was significantly ahead of second grade. Unfortunately that took forever (2 months to “find time” to give her these tests), and she ended up with “advanced knowledge” for fourth grade math while she was still in the middle of second grade. These efforts were not in vain – when we finally met with our school principal, she was very honest with us and said, I had no idea previously that your daughter was so advanced. I admit that I felt somewhat betrayed at that point by our K-1 teacher who was wonderful and was “getting” Smarty, but clearly failed to communicate her knowledge to the next grade teacher or to school administration. So, in other words, I do recommend testing your child if you think it will make a difference in the services available to him or her. I am still not recommending testing just for the sake to get a “gifted crown”, but it’s the subject for another post.
L – Learn your rights and consider your options. My parents had it easy. The former Soviet Union understood that it’s important to support academically strong students, and we had many schools in my city of birth Minsk which had “focus” on specific subjects. I spent all my school years in a school for mathematically gifted. Alas, here in US every state and sometimes every school district have their own policy for supporting gifted students. Check out yours in Gifted Educational Policies database.
M – Meet with your teacher first. It’s a common courtesy and, if you are lucky, you don’t need to take your advocacy further unless you want some serious changes in the way gifted education is handled in your district.
D – Don’t wait. That was another mistake that we made last year – waiting for three months before we started bringing up our concerns. The last straw was when our 7 year old daughter said one day, I am now like everyone else. I don’t like school and can’t wait for summer break.
O – Offer help. Last year I ended up having a small math group for several kids in Smarty’s class once a week, but only after I have spent the other 7 months of volunteering passing papers. I certainly wish that I were braver last year offering to do something more meaningful earlier. I really like how our third grade teacher uses parental help this year – we supervise and check independent work and help kids who need help in their tasks. Volunteering in the classroom is a great way to get a better perspective of your child’s academic strengths and weaknesses and of group dynamics, so you can help your child with any social or academic challenges he or she might have.
W – Write everything down. If you meet with a teacher or with a school administrator, it helps to follow up with an email outlining the summary of the discussion and finishing up with…
N – Next steps. All our conversations in school were positive, but the weakness was in the “follow up”, which our second grade teacher was unable or unwilling to do. Unfortunately, by the time we got to actionable next steps, we only had about two months of a school year left anyway. Just as in work projects, it really helps when all “stakeholders” are clear on “what, where, when” steps on the road to a better academic experience for our children.
Did Our Advocacy Work?I admit that last year we were really frustrated with the situation, but in one of the comments in my original post a more experienced parent had recommended to keep talking to school administration and not to lose hope. She was right. We discussed several options with a principal and were offered a grade skip. My husband and I discussed it at length and decided against it, because we want Smarty to enjoy her childhood longer. This year she is in the stronger third grade class with a wonderful teacher who seems quite adept in differentiating students. She is also involved in a number of extra-curricular activities (sports and music) that challenge her in a different way, and she appears to be recovering her love of learning and her natural curiosity. Moreover, other students are benefiting too from a “gifted cluster” where stronger students can work in groups and take on more challenging tasks. I am hoping for a great third grade, but I am not under an illusion that I won’t have to advocate for my daughter and for other gifted learners again. I think Intermediate Course in advocacy for gifted is just around the corner.
Did you advocate for your child in school?
More on Gifted Children From This Blog
- Book Series About Gifted Children
- Supporting Advanced Learners at Home (my guest home at Teach Mama)
- Selecting Books For Advanced Readers (guest post at Pragmatic Mom)
- Game Recommendations for Brainy Kids
- Friendship 101 for Smart Kids
- Back to School for Gifted Learners
- Beyond Common Core – Math for Advanced Learners
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