I admit that it’s hard sometimes for me not to feel jealous of stay-at-home moms, especially those who still send their children to schools and preschools. They get to take care of their homes, cook elaborate meals, pursue their creative passions and whip up amazing activities for their kids that they generously share with the rest of us. My life is very different, but it does have its own advantages. I wanted to share some with my readers, especially with those who are trying to make peace with their own choices of juggling work and child caring. I wrote a pretty long list first and then reread it and reduced it to four
1. I am following my own career dreams. There will never be a need for me to live through my child, since I am fairly successful in my own career. I don’t think I will be pressuring her to have a career that I didn’t get to have.
2. I get to hang out with my colleagues, especially when I travel. I talk to other working moms who share the same joys and challenges of combining careers and motherhoods. It’s especially interesting to talk to women whose children are older and seeing that overwhelming majority of them are turning to be successful students and well-adjusted young adults. Perhaps it’s somewhat related to the fact that by necessity they had earlier independence and responsibility.
3. My daughter values our time together just as much as I do. We don’t have a lot of power struggle behavior, because I make a conscious effort to *really* spend time with her every day. Since our time is limited, I try to think of how to create memories and have fun together.
4. I think I am a good role model for my daughter. She loves listening to me talking to my husband about my work day. She doesn’t fully understand what I do (sometimes I don’t understand it myself), but she is growing with an idea that one day she too will travel around the world, be on calls, create pretty presentations and make her own mark on the world outside her immediate family.