We entered a wonderful age of “what if?” here. Anna runs all kinds of scenarios by me, and usually I am able to either give her an answer or to help her come up with an answer on her own. But sometimes she manages to stump me. Here is our conversation from a couple of days ago:
- Anna (after playing sword fights and pretending to be “a bad guy”): Mama, what if I grow up to be a bad guy? What if I steal if I grow up?
- Me: Well, you won’t grow up to be a bad guy. You are a good person. If you work hard and are kind to others, you will grow up to be a good guy.
- Anna: Well, I work hard on my art projects… But I am only kind to people I like. I don’t want to be kind to people I don’t like.
- Me: Umm… Er… Well, sometimes we don’t like people, because we don’t understand them. There is good and bad in each of us, and sometimes we need to get to know people better to find something to like.
- Anna: Do you know any bad guys?
- Me: Not really. All people I know are good people. Most people are good people.
I always find those moral talks interesting and a little difficult. Am I kind to everyone? Not really – I avoid people that I don’t like, so I don’t have to interact with them. How about you? What would you say to your child about being kind to others.