Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Bambi

Anna (after watching Bambi on Jan 1st): The movie was a little bit scary. I didn’t like the fire, and I really hoped that Bambi and Faline would get married.

(Before going to bed that day): Mama, why couldn’t Bambi’s mother run faster? Why was Bambi all alone? He could go and live with another deer mother!

Me (trying to be positive): But, Anna, Bambi still had his father to take care of him. When I go on business trips to Israel, who is taking care of you?

Anna (with reproach). But, mama, Bambi’s mother didn’t go on a business trip to Israel! She got eaten!

I feel out of sorts since Monday. A former colleague of mine who I really liked and respected wrote about his upcoming fairly routine surgery on Facebook. He died on Monday in surgery. He was 32 and left two sons. I still remember the pictures he sent out of his second son who was born a month after Anna. The unexpected tragedy like this always throws me in for a loop, especially when it happens to someone I know. All the more reasons to live fully in the present, enjoy our children and our friends, because we are making memories that will last forever.

16 comments:

Annette said...

Wow. Just a reminder to all of us that we never know when this journey will end and our eternal journey will begin.

Nicole {tired, need sleep} said...

Oh Natalie, I am so very sorry! How awful for his children and wife. These things always make me sad too, and it's just that much harder when it's someone you know. I tend to have these horrifying thoughts quite often - either myself or Dan or Matthew being seriously ill or worse, which I can't even bring myself to say. Life is truly so fragile and sometimes we are just helpless to change things - not a very good feeling but probably one we need to face occasionally. ((HUGS)) My thoughts are with you and your colleague's family!

Ticia said...

Oh no, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for his family and for you (I know you don't believe, but this is the best way I know to help from across the country).

It's so scary when someone we know who is in our age range dies, and it leaves me, at least, thinking of all the what-if's.

I'm sending hugs through the internet to you and Anna. Give her lots of hugs this week, that's probably the best remedy of all.

And Bambi is a hard one, I've never really liked the movie, so my kids haven't seen it yet.

And you get to go to Israel, I'm jealous.

MaryAnne said...

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. You are right, it is exactly for reasons like this that we need to live each and every day to its fullest.

And I agree with Anna about Bambi.

Crunchy and Green said...

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Hugs to you as you work through this difficult time.

Amy

Debbie said...

I am so sorry for you loss. You are a very special person with a lot of love and concern for those around you. I know that from a personal point of view. You know our story so no need to share! My Prayers and Thoughts are with you and this family.

Autumn said...

I'm so sorry about your friend.

So interesting to hear Anna's observations about Bambi. The boys LOVE Bambi and have probably watched it 10 times in the past few months (they've been sick a lot...). I'm grateful that Tommy hasn't caught on that Bambi's mother died, and I'm certainly not going to tell him!

An Almost Unschooling Mom said...

Val at Collecting the Moments...linked a video with her post the other day, relating to life, and loss, that I found really encouraging - you might check it out - the link is http://goddesshobbies.blogspot.com/2010/01/i-needed-this-today.html

The Harris Family said...

I am very sorry for your lost.

My girls have not watched Bambi (mostly due to the issue you mentioned). However, we love Bambi 2. It really cute and does a really good job showing how his dad takes care of him.

Kim said...

Oh, I'm so sorry. The idea of such young children losing their parents is so devastating...

Melissa: Mother to 3 Little Sprouts said...

I am sorry to hear about your friend. We must live each day as if its our last.

I have boys so Bambi hasbt been there first choice, but I guess those questions would come up. Is there a manual out there for answers? I don't want to have to do it.

Susana said...

We have never gotten into Bambi here. Hanna never liked it because she said it was sad. After that, I never even tried with Joe and won't with the others either.

I am very sorry about your colleague and I do know what you mean. Some of the worry I posted about weighing me down has to do with worrying about the health of my family. I wish I could stop it, but it seems every time I turn a corner a friend or loved one is getting cancer or becoming ill. I just wonder when will it be us, how long can good fortune keep coming our way? I know these are not thoughts of positivity or thoughts I should be focusing on and I try so very hard to change them and to be grateful/positive, but still I worry.

I have very dear friends who both have cancer--breast cancer (the mom) and lymphoma (the dad). They have two boys ages 10 and 8. They are dear, dear friends and this is so hard to watch.

So, I do know how you feel and you are in my thoughts. I so agree with you about living in the present and making memories that will last forever.

Valerie @ Frugal Family Fun Blog said...

Oh I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My heart goes out to his family and yours. What a great reminder this is to fully live in the present and appreciate each minute spent with loved ones.

Chels said...

That's so sad. When something like that hits close to home it really makes you stop and think. Living in the present is a great reminder.

And about Bambi- if Anna was that concerned after Bambi 1 don't see Bambi 2.

My Boaz's Ruth said...

*hugs* I understand. I'm sorry.

Christy said...

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. That is so sad.

Bambi was my husband's favorite movie when he was a kid, so he loves to watch it with the kids. It is very sad, but a great movie. The Lion King is very similar. A little over a year ago, our dog passed away. This was, and still is sometimes, very difficult for my kids (for my husband and me too). I think death is extremely difficult for kids to understand. Hopefully, our children will not have to bear the pain of losing a person they love.