Wednesday, October 28, 2009

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My friend Susana at My Family My Forever has opened the ongoing conversation last week about nutrition, exercise and finding time for yourself. I admit that this is a painful topic for me. I am working full time. My work day starts at 7 am and ends at 4 pm. I usually get up between 5 am and 5:30 am, when my family is still asleep. Technically, I could exercise in those only 30 minutes a day that I have to myself, but it’s the time that I use for blogging, and I am not willing to give it up. I come home shortly before 5 pm and then it’s go-go-go with Anna. I don’t blame her for the fact that she wants to be with me from the moment I walk into the door until the moment she goes to bed. She loves her papa, but she is still very much mama girl, and I enjoy being with her. However… it means that I literally don’t have a minute to myself until after 8 pm when she goes to bed. At best I can cook or pick up the house, but not exercise or, God forbid, get online. When Anna finally goes to bed, I check my email and catch up with work for at least another 30 minutes. By the time I am done, I don’t feel like doing anything that feels remotely like work. Usually we watch an episode of our show du jour on DVD (currently we are in the fifth season of CSI Las Vegas), talk a little, and by that time it’s 10:30 – time for bed.

Just writing it down helped me understand that I need to get some time for myself on the weekends. We sort of fell into the routine when we either do some family activities or I spend some more 1:1 time with Anna. I need more time to myself to recharge. I want to say that I will use this time for exercise, but I know that it’s not going to happen until Christmas. We always do some homemade presents for Christmas – digital scrapbooks for our parents, and we are really behind. I have to use all the extra time to catch up with my part. However, I do want to start exercising in 2010. I am not overweight, but I am out of shape. I want to tone up and improve my flexibility. I am shooting for 2 times a week, gradually increasing to three times, and I hope to start playing tennis again. The challenge with tennis that either I have to find another partner, or we need a babysitter. This is another early 2010 resolution – having a date night out with my husband more than two times a year when my parents come over.

All that said, I think Susana provided a great perspective on things saying that all this craziness and business will not last forever. As my daughter grows up, she will inevitably move into her own world. I want to enjoy this time together and not to resent it. I admit that sometimes, on the days when I am tired and she is cranky, it’s not easy. But I am trying to remind myself that this moment shall pass and that early childhood will pass in a blink of an eye. I will still get to do all those things that I put on hold, I just have to hang in there and enjoy the present as much as I can.

9 comments:

My Boaz's Ruth said...

Do you have drop-in childcare around there? We get date nights because of the awesome drop-in childcare place we've found (still not a LOT. But it makes them possible). And my son loves going there.

We've even used it on the one occasion when all daytime childcare options fell through.

whisperingwhispers said...

I don't work full time, but I am with you here Natalie. I just don't find the time to fit any time for myself in. Mornings are getting hubby off to work, and breakfast for Selena and myself. My days as you know are spent around Selena. She goes to bed around 8:00, this leaves me a half hour before hubby gets home, after that it is his time. Bed around 10:30. Sometimes I admit I stay up to get some emails answered or blogging done, but even that is pushing it.

Christy said...

I can't seem to fit in exercise, and I don't even work. The day is gone before I know it. I wonder what I did with all of my time before I had children.

Ticia said...

I struggle with finding time for myself as well, I think that's part of what makes us Moms. We want what is best for our family, and are willing to sacrifice our wants (sometimes).

I hope you figure out a method that works, and when you do share it!

Susana said...

Oh Natalie, I am finding it hard to take my own advice today. Last week was such a good week, but so far this week is pretty rough:-).

I am going to try so hard to have a more positive attitude tomorrow.

I enjoyed this post so much.

The girl who painted trees said...

Thanks for sharing this Natalie. It's hard even for me to fit in everything and I don't "work". I sneak minutes at the computer while Bear plays play dough and sometimes run on the elliptical while she watches a dvd. But maybe the exercise happens once a week for only 20 minutes.

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Nicole {tired, need sleep} said...

I get one to two evenings a week when my husband is out, but after putting M to bed by myself (after being with him all day), I am about ready to drop. I *could* exercise then, but it's about the last thing on my mind at that time. It's all I can do to sit with my laptop open and my eyelids propped up waiting for hubby to come home. This is when I get the majority of blogging done. I'm lucky to have that time, I know, and I spend it online because that's what I enjoy. I need to find a way to exercise with M during the day, but it just doesn't seem to work... I can NOT imagine working a full time job on top of it all. You have my sincere admiration!

Autumn said...

I think you summed it up best when you said this crazy season won't last forever. It seems like every few months I'm able to redeem a bit more time for myself, as the kids get a bit older and more self-reliant. Now if I could just train Tommy to fold all his laundry, that would be a good hour to myself. ;-)

Mrs Adept said...

No time here either for exercise. I don't really miss it I suppose, but it would be nice to be fitter. :)